Miss Namio's advice for new pet boys
In my travels online I've encountered many newly-submissive men...all of them desperate to find, please and retain the affection of a Dominant Lady. I've found myself repeating the same information and advice over and over again! To save myself further time and trouble I've decided to add this page to my website...
Firstly, I'd say to any wannabe pet boy/submissive man: Learn all you can! This doesn't mean trawling Domme porn sites. Research Dominance & submission (D&s) join a genuine information & networking site such as informedconsent.co.uk or collarme.com. Don't launch into messaging people, just hang around and read, read, read. Include as much information as you *safely* can on your profile and some type of genuine photo. Check your spelling & grammar...attention to detail counts. A sloppily written profile looks as if no thought has gone into it, and may make us think that you are careless and immature.
Secondly, think very carefully about what it is you want and how you think you may achieve this. It's my sad responsibility to tell you boys you are the huge majority in D&s terms...Online there may be more than 50 submissive men to each Dominant Lady...the ratio is not good! This means you will have to be outstanding in order to catch our attention.
Thirdly, if or when you decide to join in a chatroom, don't immediately message any or every Dominant female in the room. It's rude, it's insulting, it's desperate! Get to know us as people first...all of us in the BDSM lifestyle are human beings with our own unique personalities. You will probably make friends along the way...and friends are very valuable. Just be yourself, do not try to impress with bravado or smut. We will kick your butt and/or regard you as a joke.
Fourthly, *absolute honesty* is essential. If you are a newly-submissive man, be open about it. No one will think anything less of you because of it. If or when you send a message or email to a Domme: Be polite. Check your spelling. Don't use abbreviated 'text speak'. Don't spam a number of Dommes with the same 'cut & paste' email. It's impersonal and we can spot it a mile off. It marks you down as someone who won't make the effort to pay us personal attention! Don't address a Dominant Lady by any title unless she requests it. Be willing to write more than one line! ( I have deleted 100's of messages that say something like "hi mistress, wanna chat luv etc etc")
Fifthly, be aware & wary out there in internet land! There are fakes, scammers & nasty people out there! Any genuine Dominant will not object if you wish to enquire about her bona-fides. I certainly do this with all my pet boys!
Last, but definitely not least! If all this seems like too much effort, and all you want is a quick sexual thrill, ask yourself if this is genuinely what you want. It's all about *your* efforts!
